On Accountability and Parenting

I'm sure you guys have heard about that youtube video called "Blatent Racism in Cheektowaga NY", also known as Racism is Alive and Well.  Basically an angry mother cusses out a Black guy and calls him a "N*gger " for startling her kids while they were in a parking lot.  Here's the video for those who may not want to click on the link:

After seeing this video, people want to ask me the following,  "If starting his car frightened her kids then why didn't he simply apologize and put the issue to rest?"

To them, I say GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT MESS!!!  Here's why:

She cussed him out. Why wasn't she watching her kids? Everybody knows that when you are in a parking lot with children, the children need to be near their parents. They need to be careful. Sure he started his car, but I hardly believe she needed to act the way she did. I bet all of that could have been avoided if she paid attention to what her kids were doing and where they were. Cars start and move in parking lots. If she was worried about the welfare of her children, she should teach them to be careful when walking in parking lots. It's a parking lot. There are cars. The atmosphere is very unpredictable. She shouldn't put the welfare of her children in someone else's hands. Those are HER kids. SHE is responsible for them. I get tired of people acting like the world is responsible for their offspring. This is a classic example of that kind of thinking.

See? This is why things are so messed up. People want to blame everything on everybody else and never ever take accountability for anything. It's to the point where people are blaming inanimate objects on a person's behavior.  It's straight up trash, careless and ugly, just like this person.

Come to find out, she's a stripper by the name of Janelle Ambrosia.  First off, why would you tell the world you are a stripper while around your children. I mean, work is work, but really though? She just opened up a can of worms for her children. The mothers of their friends are going to find out, and all of a sudden, they'll have NO playmates. The children are going to wonder why all of their friends are gone. And guess what? Mom will say something along the lines of " Well, you would have friends, but that N*GGER in the parking lot ruined all of that by his Youtube video".

As expected, the kids will grow to hate Black people because they 'took away our friends'. They wouldn't be able to understand that their mother was the one who killed all of their potential friendships by acting like a straight up idiot in public and on the internet. Everyone already knows what town she was in, all they have to do is connect the dots. Unfortunately, she was so high on herself that she forgot about what happens next.  She called her husband after the fiasco happened, and guess what? Maybe her husband could lose his job. I'm sure he'll not only be shamed for having a stripper as a wife while he is at work, but he could either get fired for her antics, meaning that she could jeopardize his place of employment since people have the ability of finding that out online, and blowing it waaaay up to the point where the company's brand could be at stake.  To make a long story short, this bitch is sacrificing her children and everybody around her so she could look 'good" in her eyes.

And we must not forget about that comment she made about stripping for cops.  Man oh man, did she throw her city under the bus. Now the cops are going to be looked at.  Will names of the cops pop up all of a sudden? Who knows, only time can tell. I'll keep this story on my radar in the mean time.

Oh, Hold up. I can't forget the fact she tried to redeem herself by saying that she had a Black cousin and that means she couldn't be racist.  She can GET THE FUCK ALL THE WAY OUTTA HERE WITH THAT RACIAL BODYGUARDING BULLSHIT.  Why do people feel the need to say things like that by putting another race in front of them in order to not appear racist? To be honest, anybody who believes this argument has to be incredibly ignorant. Just because you are or were tied to  a friend, cousin, niece, nephew, aunt, uncle, boyfriend, girlfriend, grandma, grandpa, etc who doesn't match your race doesn't automatically disqualify you as a racist. In fact, it seems that racists keep these "other" people around just in case they feel the need to downplay their racist diatribes or acts.  People are so preoccupied with trying to front about not being racist, that they are willing to stand their grown asses up and look incredibly stupid. I mean, they are sacrificing their intelligence just to appear not racist. All it does is make them look really racist, and not very smart. I mean, they are looking like some old people with the minds of very small children. And we all know the exact definition of that behavior equals.

Pick-Up Artist Site On Mass Shooting: ‘More People Will Die Unless You Give Men Sexual Options’ << The Side Eye is Strong With This One

Last weekend a guy by the name of Elliott Roger decided to take revenge on all of the "hot blonds" who never gave him any play. Because of them, he spent his college years as a lonely 22 year old virgin who never even kissed a girl. They were the cause of all of his suffering, as listed in his manifesto:

To make a long story short, he called all of the girls in the sorority "sluts" because they weren't interested in him even though he was interested. He said he'd pay retribution to them because they would go with the other men and never pay attention to him, considering how much of an "alpha male" and a "true gentleman" he was. He was going to enter the sorority and kill these girls. He killed a total of seven people before he took his own life.


This prompted a popular web site geared towards pick up artists  (or men who spend their time learning how to manipulate women in hopes to have sex) to say that more women will die unless they provide more men with sexual options.  I must tell them all and anyone who aspires to become such a person to GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE AND SIT YOUR ASSES AAAAAALLLLL THE WAY DOWN WITH THAT. I'll tell you why:
  

That dude is gross and so are those who think like him. So according to pick up artists, and folks of this ilk, women are meant to be possessed or owned by men. Seriously?! People like that are narcissistic and have a warped sense of entitlement. Nobody owes them sex. If he can't get it then, maybe it's HIS fault. Instead of killing a bunch of women or hurting them by using whatever means they see fit, maybe they should take a look at themselves and figure out what's wrong with them, and stop blaming other people for their low self-esteem. Katt Williams said it best, "It's called SELF esteem. It's esteem of your mother-fuckin' SELF". This guy had money, and decent looks, but he was a spoiled asshole who couldn't get what he wanted. He had everything given to him and thought he had the magic formula. When it didn't work out, he killed all of the women who were smart enough to not take his shit. That dude is sorry and extra lame for real and that is the real reason why he couldn't get any.


See, some of these guys want to act like pimps and try to spit game at women in hopes they could add another notch to their belt, and when the woman looks at them sideways, they want to get all mad and cuss her out for it. Maybe, just maybe women are people and shouldn't have to worry about having somebody telling them how they want to "do something (to put it lightly)" to them in so many words and at any given time or place. How would they feel if somebody said some of the mess they say to their mothers, aunts, little sisters, cousins, etc?  Something tells me either they wouldn't like it, or they'd turn their heads sideways like it never happened.  That needs to stop, and this behavior needs to be addressed head on. 


That being said, I strongly feel this is why rape gets overlooked. I'm not just speaking about women being raped either. I'm talking about men being raped as well. If a man or boy gets raped by a woman, he has to hide it and treat it as an early conquest. If he doesn't, he risks being ostracized by his friends, and any potential male role model he may come across. If a woman or girl gets raped it's her fault because she wore revealing clothes, or looked a little too hot in the summertime, or she was just there at the time, or she was walking by herself at night, or she was on a date with a guy and since he paid, she is supposed to return the favor by putting out, or she has to return the favor anyway just for going on the date with him in the first place, or because that's what male and female friends will eventually do, or he helped her fix her car, or he did "insert favor here" so she has to "repay him". If she doesn't, she's gay or there's something wrong with her, or she's a bitch, or selfish, or in Elliott Roger's case, she's a slut.


Now help me out y'all, because the last time I checked, a woman would be classified as a slut by a man if she was busy having sex with everybody. Now I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, but something tells me  those girls couldn't have been sluts because they were selective enough to not have sex with him in the first place. I better stop here because I already touched on that in the fourth paragraph. 

But anyway, to counter the argument, people also want to say things like "Well, women act like that too." I want to ask them, "Where did this behavior come from? According to you, why do women feel the need to act like that? Who told them to act like that in the first place? Most likely, they would say something along the lines of, "Society taught men that they needed to be like that, and that's what caused women to act like that." or vice versa. Well, guess what? If society taught them that, then at which point did they know it was wrong? Why do they let it continue? Why did they decide they needed to go along to get along? What would have happened if they didn't go along to get along? Was it worth it to them? And, most importantly, "When does it stop?"

Cartergate: The whole Solange vs Jay- Z Debacle

I know I'm late with writing this. As a matter of fact, so many things have happened since I wrote a blog that I could safely say that everybody went home from the party already and I'm just getting to it.
Anyway, I've had some serious things I had to tend to and some of my own punches to roll with as of late, so I had to give them my undivided attention. Now I'm here, so here goes:

Apparently Jay-Z done messed up. He done messed up so much that his wife's sister had to break her foot off in his a$$. Not only did she do it once, but she did it multiple times as indicated in the full-length video .  People have been saying that it was because Solange was taken off of the Rockafella Record label. They are even saying it was because Jay-Z wanted to go by himself to a Rhianna concert. What's crazy is that everybody is believing this mess. To those who agree with that I have to tell them to GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT MESS!  Here's why:

The last time I checked, Solange created Saint Records in 2013. She was releasing her own stuff through that label as well. Why would she feel the need to cling to Rockafella Records?

Also, why would she be mad about Jay-Z going to a Rhianna concert by himself? Maybe somebody could help me out with that one because it doesn't make any sense to me.

Upon looking closer at this, I think domestic violence may be at play. Here's why:
Many of us have seen Jay-Z and Beyonce in public. Check her mannerisms. As a woman, I can't help but notice, she may exhibit some tendencies toward being abused. Now abuse doesn't always have to be physical, in fact the most appealing kind of abuse to an abuser is the mental kind because there are no scars. As someone who grew up in that kind of environment, I happen to know what it looks like firsthand. All her life she had been groomed by her father to exude a particular image, to build a brand, and that means she had to have been molded since day one. Is it no surprise that she married someone who had the ability to do the same for her?  I mean, Jay-Z is incredibly rich, and he is no stranger to making profitable business decisions. Maybe it's just the hater in me, but I've always thought that Beyonce was something like that for Jay-Z. He gets the beautiful woman, they make a whole bunch of money together, I mean, it's a match made in heaven, and a great deal for both of them, right?

Now before folks get all up in my blog talking that, "Maybe they love each other, and they married out of love because, love makes a good quality marriage" they can GET THE FUCK OUTTA HERE WITH THAT!  Several decades ago, marriage was just a transaction, as presented in the last paragraph of one of my previous blogs.  I strongly think Jay-Z's marriage was a great example of the marriage equals financial transaction kind of thinking. In this case, love is more of a contractual agreement, where the wife has to perform such "duties" to her husband. Keep in mind, those duties are subjective, and depending on the person, they could be dehumanizing.

Let's be real. A lot of people think they could lord over their spouses in whatever way they see fit. Sometimes, people believe that it's easy to see as with physical abuse. Some people don't see mental abuse.  In the Carter's case, it appears to be a case of both.  Notice in the full video, Bey was wearing house clothes, meaning, it looks like she was wearing clothes that look like a woman would wear around the house, you know, the kind she would wear strictly for her husband. Jay was wearing a suit, Solange is wearing a dress. Based on the clothes, it appears that maybe Solange popped over for a visit, and they all were hanging out at one point. Something popped off and they went to the elevator to escort Solange from the building. Solange argued with Jay and started attacking him.

And Bey just watches it all go down.

Why would she just watch her husband get beaten up like that?  My guess is that he did something wrong and she was not trying to defend it. Now in my experience, this is an instance where a sibling would take up for the other sibling if they had been in some sort of trouble. This is an instance where people want to act like they don't know about this kind of scenario. They want to discuss blood being thicker than water but, want to distance themselves when it comes to situations being in the limelight. This is why I took the time to shine some light on this situation.  I noticed that Solange tweet indicated what I suspected, but disappeared quick causing people to say it was fake:

Is it just me, or does this tweet indicate there was all kinds of underlying tension and animosity in the Carter relationship? 

Then all of a sudden, there was only one picture of Bey on Solange's instagram.  Afterwards, Jay-Z decided to spend money on Bey's sister. Usually something like that would be done to keep somebody quiet.

But wait, there's more. In the extended video, Jay was attacked multiple times. One of the times, Bey got between her sister and husband, as if she was trying to tell her sister to stop it and back down.

Now, I may not be the sharpest tool in the shed, and I don't know their lives like that, but all of those actions look exactly like domestic violence to me. Are there any ladies out there who see what I'm looking at because I can't just sit back and say it isn't. All of their body language indicates something of the sort. I can't imagine Solange getting that worked up about not being on Jay's record label a year after she created her own.  From the looks of it, it seems she has her own money. 

Again, maybe I'm on to something, but that's just me. However, if that's the case I hope Beyonce could get help one day. So many people chose to stay in abusive relationships because that's all they know. It could be a gradual process a person could sink into and once they sink into it, there's no way out.  If I was a praying person, I'd pray for her. Since I'm not, I'll keep her in my thoughts. The same goes to all and any abused women out there, physically and or mentally.

Not So Random Thought : A Re Introduction To This Blog

I figured I'd re post the introduction to this blog and remind everyone why I started doing it in the first place. That being said,

This blog is chock full of grammatical errors, sentence structure problems, punctuation issues and many other writing faux pas I didn't mention. I've found that writing like this serves as therapy, and gives me a concrete place to put my thoughts. They appear to be all over the place, and my paragraphs are long because I have so much in my head that I have to get it all out in some way. I mentioned in the introduction that I would rant about these things often. As we all know, ranting about things doesn't necessarily get them resolved. Instead of ranting at everybody over and over, I figured I'd put them here. Doing that gives me a sense of resolution, and reminds me that I have put the idea down for the time being. Otherwise, it would re circulate through my mind.

Please forgive me if my writing style bothers you. I definitely understand why it would. That being said, I am still open to constructive feedback. Since I started writing these, I have changed the look, the font is bigger, and the paragraph spacing was a LOT less than it is right now. I'm still working on the paragraph lengths, and the grammar has improved since my previous post.

If anybody sees this. Thank you for reading. I greatly appreciate the fact that people are checking out these thoughts of mine. I just wonder if anyone else out there is thinking of the same stuff in the same way I'm thinking about it in my little corner of the universe.

 

On Passive Aggressiveness

Growing up, I would find myself in situations where strange things would happen to me. I remember a particular instance in kindergarten where a boy and friends wouldn't leave me alone. They would chase me and beat me up. They would break crayons and throw them at me and when I threw them back I would get sent out into the hall. Each time I would fight with them in the classroom, the teacher would punish me for it. We would get into it on the playground as well. I told my mother about the instance and all she would say is "Ignore them." or "They like you." This would make me angry because it was clear that she had no intention of caring about what was really going on with her child, at school. It seemed like she couldn't be bothered with such kid problems, was too busy for any of it and was not going to make time in her life for it. There wasn't a moment of peace.

At home, a particular sibling would do something uncalled for just to see how I would react. Again, I was told to ignore it and I was punished for resorting to my own solutions which often resulted in violence. I didn't have the tools to understand what was going on and why it would happen, so I would just get angry. I thought it was part of being a kid and eventually people would grow out of that phase. This lead me to pass down the behavior because I thought I was supposed to do it (If any of my siblings should see this, I'm sorry. I wish I could go back in time to fix it even if I did get in trouble for it when others didn't. (I'm still a bit irritated about that because it enabled a whole lot of foolishness that didn't do anyone any good.) ). Unfortunately high school wasn't any better, except there was a lot less violence and more verbal encounters.  For example, in high school I was unfortunate enough to say "Hi" to a girl. She didn't respond back, so I thought she didn't hear me. Since I was not familiar with that kind of treatment, she jumped down my throat for even having the nerve to say,  "Hi" to her in the first place. I was taken back, and confused, so I never talked to her again. However, she took it upon herself to be evil to me as long as I was in the same class she was. She did this for all four years. Sure, I thought she was really stupid and took my greeting way out of proportion.  I ignored her for the most part. One day, I confronted her, and asked her why she was so mean to me. She just rolled her eyes at me, and gave me no response. All I could say was, "Whatever" and leave it at that. 

Some years down the road, I had a job as a Quality Technician. It was part of my job to make sure all procedures in my department were followed correctly as described in the written processes. One day I was auditing an area and I was checking to see that each employee had been properly trained in completing their procedures. I came across a document that indicated that an employee wasn't fully certified in what they were assigned to do. I found it strange that the last time I checked the area, everyone was certified in all procedures. I had no idea who the trainer was at the time, so I reported my finding to the area supervisor. I knew everyone in the area including the supervisor, so I thought it would be a good idea to let him know about the status. Note, this anomaly could have resulted in a fine if an outside Quality Technician were to find out about it.  The issue had been fixed, and out of the way. Unfortunately, that really wasn't the case. 

A lady confronted me about my findings and told me that she had gotten written up for it. Now I had seen this lady from time to time, and I thought she was another welder in the area. It turned out that she was the trainer. I apologized for it and told her that I had no idea that she was the trainer and that if I knew she was the trainer, I would have spoken with her about it first.  Before this incident, this lady was really friendly to me and seemed nice. Prior to the incident, we spoke from time to time and exchanged jokes. Boy did I accidentally open a can of worms with her because from that point on, she made my employment at that location a living hell aside from how difficult it already was. By that point, I had learned a lot about this lady and had many altercations with her.  It turned out that she had been tampering with people's certifications whenever she saw fit. One person was denied a raise based on her actions. I had unknowingly put a stop to it. Eventually she was fired for other unrelated reasons.

Another instance involved working with a woman who had it out for me since day one. When I was still new, she kept writing me up for frivolous reasons (2 minutes late from break, etc.). She even prevented me from moving up and made sure everyone I trained got the chance to move up before I did (which I confronted her for). It got to the point where I would try to find her so we could discuss the writing ups and she would conveniently disappear. I finally cornered her in front of her supervisor about it and the writing ups disappeared. The same woman would accuse me of not knowing my job, she would try to bully me as much as she could, and accuse me of tampering with the equipment. Different variations of this behavior took place from the whole time she was there, but dwindled down after I changed my shift so I could get away from her. Even after she left on her own terms, I never got to find out what was wrong with her and what was her problem. Oh well. Good riddance.

By then, I still didn't know what passive aggressiveness was. It didn't dawn on me until a bit later. Many other events took place and I had grown to detest anybody who behaved like the people mentioned. I had become very allergic to those actions and I became no stranger to letting people know about their attempts especially in the workplace. I came to the conclusion that passive aggressive people are people who lack the necessary skills to effectively communicate any issues or disagreements with others so they make problems for the person or people they have a problem with. People like these know they may not have legitimate reasons for their issue with said person so they have to make any reason to dislike them. Some of these people are ill-equipped to handle real life situations, they can't tell the difference between criticism and critique, and they are unable to look for solutions. Not all people are like that, some just like to play mean spirited jokes just to see what the person would do (see sibling situation). Others can navigate life pretty well as long as their lives allow it, meaning as long as the people in their lives continue to look the other way. These kinds of people remind me of cats. Some cats may be awesome, but I'm talking about the cat that will take a dump on top of your refrigerator or in your shoes because one day, you didn't pet it properly. Or that cat that will get all on the counter and knock stuff down when you're trying to cook something, or it'll sit in your face and meow at you when you're trying to sleep or jump on your keyboard because it wants you to pet it right now (I'm not a cat person, can you tell, XD).

I spent a lot of time ranting about this kind of thing in previous blogs already, but instead of continuing to go on and on about my obvious hate, contempt  and very little tolerance for this sort of thing, I'm going to provide a  solution to stop this behavior from spreading:  Tell them to GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE WITH THAT MESS.  Call it out in its entirety. Don't be shy about it either. Let that cat like bitch person know that you don't play that mess, nor will you make time in your life for it. Sure, people will want to tell you that you are "rude", and or "messed up".  They only say that because you won't let them get away with their bullshit. They are rude for even suggesting that you are supposed to allow it in the first place, which is very messed up in itself.  They can get the fuck on somewhere and miss me with that mess. And, they should miss you too.  Maybe, just maybe it'll prevent a lot of fake foolishness and bullshit from going on between people, and you and everyone around you would be better for it.*

*I had to add a disclaimer to this just in case. If you get fired from your job because you socked the shit out of somebody for pulling passive aggressive mess  that is not my fault. Nowhere in this blog did I mention you should bring violence into the equation. That goes for burning the place down, shooting people up, or having a "When keeping it real goes wrong" moment.  Whatever you do, please use discretion.  Godspeed. 

  

On the Anti- Bullying Campaign

This has been going on for a while, and is definitely old news. I decided I'd take a bit of a break from the other stuff and focus on something like this for the time being. That being said, the anti bullying campaign acts like all of a sudden it's going to disappear. Kids are going to live in peace and harmony, and it'll rain gum drops and sunbeams will shine out of everyone's asses.  To those who think it'll happen, they can GTFOH with that mess and here's why.

As a former kid who used to get bullied relentlessly (and still receives snide remarks from grown men and women to this day), this anti bullying campaign makes me very sad because all it does is hide the problem. Also, why not address the people doing the bullying ? Bullying is an age old problem that continues to not be addressed fully. No anti bullying program can work unless it is completely implemented and taken seriously, meaning if it happens in the workplace, it needs to be met with real punishment. Unfortunately, the same thing happens in the work place where the bully may have a circle of friends who will engage in this behavior, and said authorities turn a blind eye, except when the victim retaliates or does something out of the ordinary, and that's when the victim gets punished.

For those who say that a child should learn to record any and all actions, and keep a copy for themselves and turn another in to the administrators. It's sad that children would even have to learn this corporate mess in the first place. Is it no wonder why they are angry and grow up to be very resentful of the people in their own surroundings, and are quick to disobey adults? This is why kids shoot up schools, and why adults go postal on their employers. It isn't because of video games, rap lyrics, or television.

Fix this backwards method of punishing at school and in the workplace and bullying will end. Punish the correct people in a swift and professional manner in the workplace, and make sure the child who does the bullying gets the correct punishment (regardless of whether the parents think their little angel could do no wrong). If the parent of the bully disagrees, the option to send their child to a different school should be taken into consideration. And if an employer can't be professional, then they should be made to find another job.

That's just my interpretation of the situation. 

Hoooo. Leeee. Sugar Honey Iced Tea! I think I May Be On To Something Here.

Check this out: I was venting at a friend about how things have been with me lately, and how I've been feeling, and it turned into a conversation on how caste systems affect society, and what happens when you combine money. We came to the following conclusions.

Whether or not Americans want to believe it, this country runs on a combination of caste system and money. Here's how it works: In a work environment, you have the workers, bottom management, middle management upper management, etc. They all work on different pay scales. In a lot of cases the people in the higher rungs may think lesser of those in the lower rungs. All of this is subjective and can make or break a company, especially if it is small. Lets say you work for a company that is small, however the environment is toxic. You have a lot of bullying, passive aggressiveness and other foolishness between the workers, and on occasion the boss would dive right in and play the game as well. The boss refuses to fully train the workers for fear of one of them taking their job. The boss is arrogant and intentionally evasive when the workers ask questions on how to do their job. Lets say eventually, the boss moves to a different department, and a new boss is hired. This new boss is amazing! The boss works to establish a relationship with their workers that requires respect of all parties, and trains their crew to the point where they govern themselves while the boss is away. Now, no one is shorthanded because everybody knows how to do each other's job. This means that workers can schedule vacations without worrying about their job because someone else knows how to do it just as well. Pretty soon, the crew is happy, and will share the wealth. Word gets out that the new boss is awesome, and that boss is elected to spread their knowledge. Soon enough everybody on that level gets to work in their departments with a great boss.

However, this doesn't spread as far and wide as it could because there are still some people who adhere to the old way of doing things through intimidation, and resorting to underhanded attempts to create an establishment of a status that can't be attained by the people on the lower rungs of the ladder. These people feel they will lose their honor if they appear to like what the great bosses on the lower rungs are doing, so they adhere to the old way of doing things, and they do it willfully in order to keep their status because they are scared they will lose it in some way, shape or form.

Lets say someone from one of the higher rungs of the ladder decides to break from the norm and tries to follow the method of the boss with the good reputation. As a result, they get shunned from their original pack, meaning they may lose their status (or will be denied their raise) once word gets out. They will be considered an outcast, a pariah of sorts and no one would want to have anything to do with them because they dared to consider doing something the person on the lower rung of the ladder was doing and that it implied that such a person may have had the capability of being smart enough to have a good idea in the first place. Now all of a sudden anytime they deal with people from the pack, it will come with a cost because the pack has to defend their status to not appear weak. Now in order for the pack to appear strong, the person who was kicked out will have to give a lot more to the members of their previous pack in order to be given a shred of tolerance in the first place. In fact, they would probably be lucky if they even got that. The members of the pack will not have to work nearly as hard to receive acceptance with each other. It becomes an unspoken code.

Lets take a look at what happens when you throw money and America's caste system into the equation:

Lets say you have a person walk into a brand new market that appeared in their neighborhood. Lets say the shopkeeper and their family's ethnicity doesn't match the ethnicity of the customer. The customer looks around in the shop to find what they are looking for. The shopkeeper and their family are watching the customer's actions very intensely. There are no prices on the items. The customer asks how much a particular item is. The shopkeeper gives a price. That price is higher than the customer is used to paying for such item. The customer looks for another item, and asks the shopkeeper for the price. Again, the price is higher than usual. The shopkeeper doesn't know that the customer had done some homework before they attempted to make their purchase, and that particular shop happened to be the only shop that had the particular item at the moment. The customer leaves the store empty handed.

This situation matches the same situation I described with a corporate environment. There had to be some sort of caste system in place for them to decide to make their prices subjective. The shopkeeper's pack (people on the same corporate rung of the ladder) had decided which people get what price. Since the patron's ethnicity didn't match that of the shopkeeper, they were charged the higher price. I used this as an example because the same thing happened to me. I went to a computer store to find a CPU that had been slightly outdated. I wasn't looking to upgrade my computer, so I was hoping to settle for the outdated CPU at the moment.The location didn't have prices on their stuff, so the wife of the owner called her husband. They didn't know that I knew their language, so when she spoke to him, she looked up at me and said "Black" in her language. The price of the CPU was $30.00 MORE than was mentioned on Amazon.com, which was the cheapest site I could find. The other stores in the location said they could special order it for much cheaper than that, and were giving me the same quote that Amazon.com gave me. I decided I didn't need the CPU, and I was able to fix my computer without a new one.

I learned that if a person defines what does and what does not gain credit in a society, then they can change said society. In the corporate instance, the same tactics used to establish hierarchy were abolished, and a new society was born. This can be done with the shopkeeper situation as well. In the shopkeeper situation, everybody felt like they couldn't afford to change it, just like the other people in the corporate environment. They pushed against it so they can keep their status and so called honor. It seems that the boss who spread the knowledge was the one who felt they could afford to do so. As a result, the boss has a happy crew of people who want to come to work. The people who were so busy trying to maintain the status quo were the ones who were so busy trying to keep things the way they were. If everybody in each situation felt they could afford to drop the perceived status, they wouldn't need to keep score of what they feel that needs to be done to maintain their honor.

It was that moment where I found out this thinking may be the formula that could have the potential to solve racism.